How I got started on my path of Sexy Self Discovery in Boss & Badassery.

How I got started on my path of Sexy Self Discovery in Boss & Badassery. February 25, 2019Leave a comment

Hello fellow Queen of Boss & Badassery ( aka Queen B)

My name is Kat Wildling, a Sex, Wealth & Relationship Coach. How did I end up here?

To answer this question, let me tell you a little (maybe not so little haha) story about where I started, why and how I do what I do, and what brought me to where I am today – coaching people like you on exactly what to do in the art of pleasurable business building and cultivating a sexy threesome of Self, Wealth & Relationships.​ ​

I have also been a stylist for 14 years and several years ago started to encounter some work-related pain problems starting to creeping up and take over. At the same time, Hello Saturn Return,  I also watched almost every aspect of my life crumbling down around me. 

I was one of the top stylists in a beautiful salon and was very successful, but hated where I was working and was tired of the drama and stress it came with. It was like walking on eggshells every day. I started having anxiety attacks on the reg.

I had put off my dreams of travelling and exploring the world due to fear of taking time off and losing my clients/ my status in the salon, it didn’t suite the relationship I was in, AND mostly because: I was drowning in an ocean of crushing debt. This debt was mostly a result of being naive in my early 20’s and being frauded a shit tonne of money that dictated the following decade almost; as well as a car loan, student loans, a previous business loan from a salon I had in my early 20’s. It was like a gluttonous monster that swallowed up and shat out any sacrificial offerings I brought it. I had reached the max potential I could have in the small town I lived in (I was a big fish in a small pond up north so I moved there to work to pay off the debt).

All of this sucked the big one.. but, shit really hit the fan when I realized I was in yet ANOTHER failing relationship. The relationship had reached its expiration date… and then some, before I finally couldn’t take it anymore and ended it for both our sakes. We weren’t actively choosing and prioritizing each other, our relationship, and our sex life to a level that I knew we both deserved. The icing on a shit cake. I am a Leo… I LOVE love. This was devastating. I was in a life and relationship that were no longer passionate or intimately fulfilling… Stop the world, I want off. 

This giant shit sandwich I was being served was a result of my past actions and creating that current reality I was suffering in. I had finally had enough. It really pushed me to make a decision of how I wanted to live… Because I was sick and tired of feeling like I had to choose between having a healthy and amazing relationship, travelling around the world, taking care of my health, having a sweet career that wasn’t beating up my body and causing me stress AND MAKE SOME G DAMN MOOLAHHLAA AROUND HERE!

There had to be another way! 


I got the hell outta that life that was no longer serving me, moved to a town where I knew one friend. I hired a coach, I took sexual liberation courses to free myself of the crap & confusion I was still carrying from my last relationship and I learned how to come home to my body, to create more pleasure in my life, and build confidence in myself! Holy Hell it was liberating! I got a very unconventional job, made even more money than I was making in the salon I was previously at ( which was pretty hard to beat, I did quite well for myself there), I put my nose to the grind and paid off my debt in a year AND I was able to have multiple five figures left over. I am talking about paying off almost $50,000 worth of debt. So, with my finances back in the black, and then some, for the first time in almost a decade; I decided to take some time to “Find myself”. I literally dropped everything, sold everything and set out on a path to go fulfill my life long dream of travelling the world for an undetermined amount of time, figure out what the hell I was doing with my life and possibly meet the love of my life ( I always knew that I would meet him on this big trip.. But so much had to shift for me to make it all happen. It shifted, and it happened!!! )

I got on that plane and In an instant—everything changed. An ordinary life did not interest me, I wanted an extraordinary one.

One day I was at a local coffee shop in Pai, Thailand checking my email while sipping a delicious Vietnamese iced coffee ( I know it was Thailand, but they were quite popular still). This was shortly after I had met my future husband, but didn’t know it at the time. I had been gone for 6 months or so and was having the time of my life! Along this trip I had decided, due to the pain that I had been experiencing, I needed to cut back from doing hair in a conventional way and create a way to make it work for me. I loved the beauty industry with a passion, but I needed to find a way to respect and prioritize my body. I couldn’t go back to the way it was..and this created a bit of an identity crisis. I wanted to find something that I could still create epic transformation, be creative, help others feel amazing about themselves, have deep conversations and build rapport and relationships with my clients and make my own hours/be my own boss. 

In my 14 years in the beauty industry, I had learned how to make lots of money, how to build a clientele quickly ( I liked to move a lot lol, I was a bit of a gypsy!) and with most of my favourite clients in my roster. I wasn’t afraid to take risks and make bold moves. I learned some pretty amazing things in the process. I had been a student, an apprentice, a stylist, an instructor, a manager, an owner, employee, and contractor/entrepreneur. I took as many classes and went to as many hair shows/expos as possible! You name it, I had pretty much done it all, the good, the bad, the ugly, the magnificent. I wanted to experience and learn everything I could to dominate my industry that I was so passionate about. I had so much knowledge and experience to share from my years of rocking out in the beauty industry in such a wide spectrum of experience that seemed like a waste not to share.

I was so inspired by and this life-changing trip and meeting the love of my life, my coaches and mentors and all the amazing experiences I was surrounding myself with. It was when I had finally stopped working myself to the bone long enough, that I gained so much clarity on what direction I wanted to go in. After several months of being pen pals, while I was living in Australia, I  moved back to Canada to be with my Travel Lover…( P.S. it’s been just over three years now and we are getting married in 2020! )

I remembered back to that day in the coffee shop in Thailand and that I had received an email while from the woman I had taken the sexual liberation courses from; offering a Coaching Certification. Then it dawned on me. This wasn’t an option, it was a calling. An unshakable feeling down to the very last cell in my body that I had to share my passion for transformation with the world. I had no idea, in that moment, that my life would change forever. Or even more shockingly, just how much it would change.

 I took action and researched on how to combine all I wanted to offer into one amazing career that I could use to help others to design a life ( and career) that they didn’t need a vacation from..and to save them all the mistakes that cost me a lot and in general all of the fluffing around I had to do to get to where I am at today! Things like: client-based business building, raising prices, empowerment/personal development, self-care/worth/confidence, yoga & fitness, meditation, breathwork, stress reduction techniques, building delightful relationships with yourself, your lover, your career, & money.

Listen, I have been there, and done it all and have the tee-shirt to prove it. I have failed miserably and I have succeeded… back and forth, repeatedly, and through all of this, I have found SO MUCH POWER in The art of Pleasurable Career Growth & Avoiding Burnout While Thriving in a Sexy Threesome of Self, Wealth & Relationships and why this is such a Badass Boss Babe must have! 


Now, here I am…Eager to light the torch for you and take you by the hand as you bravely set off on the path of Sexy Self Discovery towards A Sexy Me for an Epic We; to be a boss, date a boss and build an empire. To start designing a life that you don’t need a vacation from. To know that you can have everything you want! You just have to be willing to show up and get started. 

I’ve got you, Love, let’s do this!  


Kat Wildling

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